Sex dating in sierra madre california
The perceived abundance of friendly, fit women didn’t hurt either.However, the quality of my love life was worse than it had been in any other city.
This, plus the other six aforementioned factors, may very well make LA the toughest big city in the US to be single in.Here’s the psychology of what I think happens: once you’ve been late or missed an appointment for reasons beyond your control, your brain has to make a choice: “I’m flaky so I’m a bad person” vs.“Flakiness is okay.” To avoid cognitive dissonance, the unconscious choice that most people make is to validate the unintended bad behavior.Lack of public transport also means that people stay sober enough to drive back home.As a result, the social lubricant effects of alcohol don't operate in the same way as in a city with public transport. So when I found myself back in LA after a long hiatus, it was a bit of a homecoming.
I looked forward to perpetually sunny climes, rollerblading on the boardwalk, and the general openness of the people.
A lot of people come to LA to make it in the entertainment industry, which is a fleeting, fickle creature.
Is it too farfetched to see that fickleness permeating all the way down to the participants in that industry and their social bonds? Dating people in the entertainment industry is fraught with unique challenges.
That casual contact is missing in LA, because we spend a lot of time in our wheeled steel cages.
As as in the song by Missing Persons, “Nobody walks in LA.” And if you want to meet someone again, you have to coordinate busy schedules, make a one-on-one date and travel (see #2) – a higher-stakes proposition than bumping into someone and grabbing an apropos drink.
It’s 20 miles through one of the most car-jammed concrete jungles on the planet, with no efficient public transport to speak of. And so the activation energy of meeting someone not nearby goes up.