I was dating a 20 year old woman
This means that when you’re escalating on a woman, you need to push the envelope.Even if you think she might consider what you’re doing “creepy”, you need to go for it.
If you start talking about how hot her boobs are or tell her how you “can’t wait to get her back to your place”, she’s going to vanish fast, even if she’s a Type 2.The good news is that the world is filled with super hot Type 2s and Type 3s, and I’m talking about what most men would consider 9s and 10s. Whenever I go out on a first date with a VYW, not only do I the older man aspect.These women will be more than happy to sleep with a much older man. I know that since she’s agreed to a date with me, she’s not a Type 1, so she’s either a Type 2 (in which case fast sex will be very easy as long as I don’t majorly screw anything up) or a Type 3 (in which case my odds are a little lower and a little more comfort-building time will be required).It’s true that if you’re really good looking or have extremely strong game you can overcome the fact that you’re acting younger and score with those Type 2s anyway, but why create the extra work for yourself? In most cases I’ve seen, and I’ve seen a lot, the reason guys try to act younger is because they’re trying to have sex with the Type 1s I’ve got news for you. Type 1s are horrified at the thought of having sex with men much older than they are. Even if you’ve think you’ve had sex with a reluctant Type 1 VYW before, it’s not because she was a Type 1…she was a reluctant Type 3.If you’re over 30, you will never, and I mean never sleep with a Type 1 VYW. If she was a Type 1 you would have never gotten her pants off.Being an older man, but acting like a younger man (or worse, lying about your age) doesn’t make any sense.
You are destroying the very thing these Type 2s crave.
Younger women, even Type 2s, are hypersensitive about creepy older men, as well they should be (for their own safety reasons).
Instead of being a creepy older guy, you need to be a confident, especially if you’re talking over texts, online, or in a public place, and/or if you have not established clear rapport yet. I see way too many older guys who do have chances with younger women completely blow it by being too creepy, too verbally sexual, way too fast.
The older man / younger women stuff also generally applies to any man who is hitting up any woman of legal age who is more than 10 years younger than he is.
(Since men hitting up women within one to nine years younger is considered “normal” by society in most cases.) So in a way, a 45 year old man working with a 26 year old woman would apply here, even though she’s technically not a VYW.
Younger women is a topic I haven’t discussed here in a while. If you’re much younger than 30 you’re welcome to read on if you’re curious, since this is something that will be affecting you in a few years.