Dating too nice
But many of you may not have received that type of consistent praise a long time ago.
Play your hand cautiously in dating and you’ll achieve far more successful results in your relationships.It’s a stressful, sometimes gut-wrenching experience to care so much about being liked back, so don’t put yourself through that when you simply don’t have to!Why you do it: Somewhere along the way, someone didn’t teach you well enough to believe that you are worthy and good enough.When you first meet someone, it’s actually pretty easy to paint that person with one large brushstroke because you really don’t know that much about him.In other words, because you don’t have much information, you decide to fill in the blanks by using your own imagination.You idealize your new date and believe this one’s going to be different from all the rest.
When you idealize someone, you see them as all-good or all-perfect.
Your self-esteem depends on whether she likes you or not.
Rushing too quickly in dating has everything to do with how you feel about yourself.
Simply put, people who feel good about and proud of the overall package they are don’t feel the need to rush because they don’t have emotional holes they’re looking to fill.
But if your self-esteem is up one day and down the next, finding someone to like you becomes the most all-encompassing drive on earth.
is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, Psychology Today blogger, and TV guest expert.